Focus Area IV

Beyond Death:
How Can I Keep Our Bond Alive?


Keeping the relationship with my dear deceased loved one alive

What this is about

Key questions in coaching

  • How can I stay connected with the one I’ve lost – and what will sustain me in this journey?
  • How can I grieve and still keep moving forward?
  • What rituals and ways of remembering feel good to me?
  • What do I want to carry forward from him/her?
  • What do I want to keep as a my ‘treasure’?

Maybe some of these thoughts sound familiar?

  • “I’m terrified that I’ll forget my wife / dad or that our connection will be lost.”
  • “I still talk to my deceased sister every day, but everyone says I need to let go. I don’t know how to do that. It doesn’t feel right.”
  • “I don’t want to let go in the sense of ‘gone.’ I want to find a way for him to still have a place in my life.”

If these thoughts feel familiar, this might be a good place to begin as we start working together.

There are many ways to keep the connection with someone you love present in your life, even after their death. If this is something you’d like to explore, I’m here to help you find everyday practices that feel meaningful and align with your values or faith.

Core goals of coaching

  • You’ve lost the fear of forgetting your beloved person or “betraying” them – and possibly losing them all over again.
  • Instead, you nurture a warm, living connection that gives you strength and comfort. In harmony with what you personally believe, whether you’re religious or not.
  • You can smile at beautiful memories and you know that your deceased loved one will always be a part of you.
  • Grief means love. You have found a very individual answer that resonates with you on how to continue living your love.

“The goal of grief is not to sever the bond with the deceased, but to transform it.”

Dennis Klass