Focus I

Understanding the Loss:
What Happened?


Understanding what happened & finding its place in your life story

What this is about

Key questions in coaching

  • What exactly happened?
  • How did I feel during this time, what did it do to me?
  • What story am I telling myself about it, and how do I make sense of it?
  • How can I integrate this into my life story?

Maybe some of these thoughts sound familiar?

  • “It’s as if someone has pulled the rug out from under me – I just don’t understand how all of this happened and why it had to be me.”
  • “The same movie keeps playing over and over in my head. I can’t escape from this story.”
  • “Rationally, I understand that this happened, but part of me just won’t accept it. It keeps thinking: This is just a nightmare or a mistake – any moment now he/she will come walking through that door just like always…”

Core goals of coaching

  • You can talk about what happened without being completely overwhelmed.
  • Those possibly agonizing thought spirals and endless rumination over “Why” and “What if” begin to fade.
  • You are on your way to finding peace with the fact that some questions are allowed to remain unanswered.
  • You’re ready to tenderly start a new chapter, with clear understanding of how your lost loved one / the thing you lost will be part of that story – or perhaps won’t be.
  • You can accept what you experienced as a painful but important part of your life story.

“The goal isn’t to move on from grief, but to move forward with it as part of your story.”

MEGAN DEVINE